> Jeff and others:
> Isn't it "normal" to be somewhat agressive to better our situations?

The question of what's "normal" IS the question.  As an undiagnosed XXY man I lived a life that managed to be happy and get by but bordered on passive acceptance of circumstances.  Philosophically I never accepted the idea of giving in and simply getting by, always aspired to achieve; but in reality I stayed in jobs and residences far longer than I should have, left or made decisions with my life only with great difficulty and endless dithering, and rarely followed through on any project.  Since starting on testosterone I can honestly say my perspective has undergone a 180 degree turn.  Early this year, I realized my previous job was going nowhere, so I made a constructive plan to go out and get a job I really wanted -- and I got it.  I've been in the same relationship now for eighteen months, and next month we're moving in together.  I have a much firmer grasp of things than I did before, things I want to be working on and developing.  I see the things I've long dreamed about as now being possible and in reach.  I feel confident, and "complete."  A lot of guys go through this kind of change, but I'm not "a lot of guys."  I'm XXY, and from what I've seen in this list my experience has been similar in many respects to that of other XXYs.  It would never have occurred to me before that it was 'normal to be aggressive to better my situation.'  I simply did not have that sense of drive inside me.  Testo put it there, thank GOD!

I think you need to listen better and more carefully on this list to what XXYs say about themselves.  Merely curling up into a ball and insisting on a single thought track won't help you understand that the experience of XXYs is quite different from that of other people.

Best wishes,

Jeff